Ideal what?

Sometimes PC can make me smile and say damn I love that man and of course there are others when I want to drop kick him...
This is the smile moment.

I was on the wii to get weighed and it was in the yellow which is ideal. It was the top and I want more towards the middle. So PC says,"see your ideal and no need to lose anymore." Awwww thanks babe but I want a bit more b

He doesn't get it and insists I don't need more. I don't NEED it but I WANT it :-)

Thank you for loving me for me.

snow wife

Ok ok chill

Obviously renovation work is a bitch but we are doing it. We figured out why I want to cut his tongue out and shove it down his throat...communication lol duh
See for approx 30 years of my life things have been a certain way but England is obviously different.
Example time:
Door knobs here in the house ONLY turn left which I thought the knob was broke. It's not, it's normal - here.
So I of course brought this up saying they were weird and I got a lecture on how it's right and then a lecture on why its right. Well I never said it was wrong, just weird. Still why does it have to be weird? Well again 30 something years my knobs always go both ways so its weird to me.
Allow things to still be weird for me. So now he does. I am not looking for Why or Reasons. I am just stating its weird for me. Thankyouverymuch

So now we have that settled and discussions happen on the next plan because we both aren't mind readers, things are moving along just fine.

PS I still need a real JOB with real cash money - anyone ?

Snow wife

Renovations.

I am not sure how a married couple makes it thru a renovation. I am ready to stay how it is just so there are no more bullshit statements. Amazing how insensitive a man can be. I bust my ass painting and he comments how it isn't done... Goes on to tell the dwarfs that it looked before I painted. Well guess what buddy boy you just won the deal of painting.
So learn to be positive or negative things will happen. Just like now because I am not an employee...
Yes this is a bitch blog but also a reality check because if you want to live here with us then the negativity must end. Hire someone to do it just to keep is sane.
This is my opinion, take it or leave it.

Karma is a bitch

Snow wife

Appliances

Just a quick WTF moment...I think sometimes it is just PC being awkward ;-P

Me: We need a new coffee pot, this one doesn't really get hot anymore and I have to put my coffee in the microwave

PC: It's a kettle, it happens

Me: Are you trying to tell me the coffee pot is a kettle now?

PC: Well it is

Me: It's not!  It may heat water but it percolates and does coffee not just boil water.  Because a coffee pot doesn't EVEN boil water.

PC: Its still a kettle

Me: You are a dumb ass sometimes lol I mean seriously

PC: It has an element so it is a kettle

Me: You are killing me (laugh) my point is we need a new one ;-)


anyone else have these lame conversations?

snow wife

Mother's Day UK

I had written this whole post how Mother's Day was going to basically suck....

I didn't think I would feel the love or even really be acknowledged even to the furbaby but low and behold my PC did good!

I got a card and caramel treats plus the dwarfs got me a few cards too.  They were very sweet cards and not just the basic cheap ones.

We had a wonderful lunch and a few laughs.

I actually liked Mother's Day this year.

I love being surprised

Snow Wife

Times Change

Ok if you would have asked me a year ago if life would be like it is, I would have said you were smoking something...

I figure out school runs and dentist appointments. Oh and work and maybe have a social life as well. Also clean the house, do laundry, grocery shop and plan and cook the meals. Seriously who am I?

I am a planner but never really envisioned this type of planning. All I need is more cash - just like everyone else! Heck maybe a lottery winning of say 500k as we aren't greedy but would always welcome more.

I need from PC: a massage, bottle of wine, nice meal all served to me in a nice hotel room where we can eat in our undies or PJ's. I don't want to get dressed up or be fancy. I just want a pamper and to spend a quiet night alone with my hubby with some awesome food/drink and maybe even some nookie!

(all I can hear is the lyrics,"I did it all for the nookie!")

I am all about the relaxed night as I don't need fancy!

Happy Valentines Day
 Snow Wife

Perfect Parenting

Ok I will wait while you get off the floor laughing.

You mean to tell me there isn't a perfect parent out there? No way!  I have seen so many who know it all, so that can't be true.

I know mom is obviously always right and knows best right? Well hon sometimes dad is right too, just because they are a man they can still be right.

So please if you have the perfect parent handbook I would love to read it, hell might get it published and I will share the profits with ya ;-)

snow wife

The House Hunt

Well I have been house hunting for years but just recently it seems that Prince Charming has got on board for real, real!

We live in a matchbox - seriously. I have never lived someone so small but its an experience right?

So I have this list called, "All I want" because PC always says, "Oh its all you want but what about xyz."  HA so yes it became a list.

We have a looked at a few houses but the last one I said oh perfect this lil freaking room could become the master bathroom aka en suite. He said why there is a bathroom right here? UMMMM Do you hear me? This was my very first ALL I WANT - I want/need my own bathroom.  I don't like sharing towels or bathroom stuff. I want to keep my make up and stuff in the bathroom NOT on the dresser in the bedroom.
Please god get me a shaver plug too (110v) so I can plug in my toothbrush in the bathroom not the kitchen once a week!

Sorry I got carried away....

PC says thats nuts so I say then lets move on because I dont want this house if I cant have my own bathroom.  Deal breaker? I was like Yep.

So if it happens I *will* get my bathroom and the plans in my head include a walk in closet too since it is a small room to make into shower room and closet LOL

Give me an inch and I will take a mile when it comes to "all I want".

snow wife

Awww suck it

Is what I feel like saying sometimes.  I do always try to see the positive things of most things but there are these details that crawl under my skin and I can't shake them - EVER!
Being an educated expat wife, mom, stepmom and friend is stupid hard but we just plow on and smoosh a smile on our face.
I am educated yet I can't find a job so I feel as if I am sponging of PC and I always feel bad spending "his" money.  Yes I know its "our" money and he doesn't say don't but I have never lost this sense of independence.
I don't have the same friend circle even after all these years here which kinda sucks too.
I have gained weight and feel miserable but don't have the money to spend on a gym because at this point I think this is what I need.
Am I a good wife? I hope so even with my snotty moments I am sure he loves me to pieces.
Mom/Stepmom? I say hell yes I am as our life revolves around their health and happiness.  Sometimes I still don't feel good enough.  I am sure this is my own hang up but it is what it is - right?

Thank goodness I drive and have that freedom or I might have killed someone by now!

snow wife

Sun and Laughter

It is amazing to me what sun and laughter can do for your mood.  I realise I need sun more then I thought, it does give you a boost (no those lights don't work the same).  I need my Prince Charming by my side sitting in the sun with a cocktail and laughing about our life and fun jokes.  I need friends who you have laugh's and inside jokes because honestly its true when they say there is nothing better then a good belly laugh!

Note to self PC and I are taking out own holiday next year to reconnect, get sun and laugh!  I miss that.

Remember to laugh loads and get some sun ;-)

snow wife

Babysitter

I think the dwarfs and Prince Charming (who isn't all that charming at the moment) think I am a babysitter, house cleaner, bed maker, cook and anything else they want done.  Guess what I am not.

You are all grown up enough to manage small tasks on your own - I am not your mother. Yes I can say that.
Being a stepmom can suck wait that is a capitol "S" and some days it can be amazing.
Most days I just feel like a 3rd wheel that dropped in on a family and not sure why I am here - they aren't mine.

Not sure how I have got by this long but this is an awesome site http://www.stepdivas.com/articles/ and the articles were amazing to ME.

Stepmom Bill of Rights - INCREDIBLE!

1. Our marriage is our first priority, and we will address all issues together.
2. I will be a part of the decision making process in my marriage and family at all times.
3. People outside the immediate family, including ex-wives, in-laws, or children cannot make plans that affect my life without my consent.
4. I will not be responsible for the welfare of children for whom I can set no limits.
5. I must be consulted about which children will live with us, when they can visit, and how long they will stay.
6. I will not solely be responsible for housework – chores will be distributed fairly.
7. Others may not violate my private space at home, nor take or use my possessions without my permission.
8. I will never be treated as an “outsider” in my own home.
9. My husband and stepchildren must treat me with respect.
10. I will be consulted on all family financial matters.

AMEN
snow wife

I need to remind myself the reasons I fell in love with Prince Charming everyday...
~me

Baby fever!

At the end of last year my biological clock started ticking and it has gradually gotten louder.
I am no spring chicken because at the age of 20 something I don't think I would have been as good as a mother as I potentially could be now.  I have the most wonderful husband and dwarfs but I am so ready to add a new dwarf to our life and I can't keep that clock quiet.  I know the chances are slimmer at my age but hey if it's meant to be it will be.  I say that now but...
So just think good thoughts for me and anyone else there hoping to add to their family.

Maybe it's just me but I swear there are babies everywhere - is this what they call baby fever?
It seems anytime I turn on the TV there is a baby or someone is pregnant.
I get on facebook or talk to a friend, someone is pregnant and pictures of their scans are online (I do smile every time as they are so damn cute!)  Is it that time of the year? Is this what happens after Easter because no one told me. 

Examples:
1. Grey's Anatomy - someone is pregnant and someone else gets granted temporary customer rights for adoption (no names as I don't want to spoil it for anyone who hasn't seen it).  This is two baby references in one show.
2. On TV just recently - Knocked Up...'nough said
3. How I met your mother - Yep pregnant
4. 90210 - just maybe someone will end up pregnant, I am waiting for this to happen
5. True Movies - forget it everyone is pregnant or trying to get pregnant or lost a baby
6. Celebrity Juice - Holly was pregnant and still showing episodes all pregnant - she is so cute ;-)
7. One born every minute - OMG talk about babies and what a reality show to watch as I honestly squirm but I admit to have cried once they are born.
8. BBC show the Human Body - from pre conception to death....All I can say is WOW

I bet now that you read this you will see pregnancy and/or babies EVERYWHERE.  The movies just kill me. Full Stop.  Thank goodness I can watch them and shed a tear without anyone around because that would be an emotional wreck waiting to happen and I might embarrass a few people as well ;-)

snow white

The secret of health for both mind and body is not to mourn for the past, worry about the future, or anticipate troubles but to live in the present moment wisely and earnestly."
~Buddha~

I am no Hercules

I am not as strong as I let on, really.  I have always been the independent, head strong, opinionated,self sufficient and gung-ho individual.  Whether as a friend, sister, wife, aunt, step mom, daughter-in-law, mom or child everyone needs someone to lean on and that someone needs to "get" you and not judge.

Some days it feels as if I am in quick sand and just fighting to be the strong one for everyone else and only when I get a free me moment do I realise I am no Hercules.  I want someone who "gets" me to be here or some where close but that isn't an option.  Not to say I don't have friends where I am because I have wonderful friends but honestly it just isn't the same as someone who you have known for years and years.  Some days I want my mom and I am not ashamed to say it.  I would love mom to be here to have a cuppa with and ramble on about nothing but that is no where in the near future.

I know no one expects me to be Hercules as I put that burden on myself but then again what woman doesn't carry that "badge?"  Aren't you someone's Hercules? Don't you carry the stress and worries of others? Especially the one's you love?

Life can sure test your marriage with family and drama and I know I always have my wonderful Prince Charming to lean on for support but sometimes you just needs the girls.  Do ya feel me?  In the past 6 months I can say without a doubt my marriage is stronger due to overcoming obstacles and becoming each other's cheerleaders - together we are as strong as Hercules.

I guess it's a plus I realised I am not Hercules and just sometimes you need a hug.  Make sure you hug the woman in your life today.

snow wife

"The best gift you can give is a hug; one size fits all and no one ever minds if you return it."
Source Unknown

Movies = Scam?

So hubster and I had a date night and what do you do on date night as a married couple?
duh
Dinner and a movie

I almost didn't want to do it because it was a rip off! Straight up rip off!

You get assigned seats in the cinema so you best book on line but honestly there were 6 people in the movie theater that late at night and on a weekday so why bother...
*I do like the pick your own seat thing so if you plan you get good seats!
ODEN Cinema - UK
1. Standard Pricing - Adult £8.60
2. Premier Seating - Adult £10.20 * essentially means the center row with a higher headrest.

So it was £17.20 to see a movie on a Monday night? Ohhh the rates go up on PEAK times (weekend).

Alright let's put this in another perspective: £17.20 is $27.50 which is holy crap!

US Awesome Movie Place (not named)
2 tickets - $14.00 = £8.75
2 beers - $6.00 = £3.75
1 Appetizer/Starter - $6.00 = £3.75
Total: $26.00 OR £16.24

I know the exchange rate sucks right now but this felt like highway robbery! The price of the ticket in £'s is still higher then minimum wage here. I am not sure how people can afford trips to the movies with prices this high. I believe our local movie is not quite as expensive but sweet geez I don't want to do this ever again. There are better things to spend money on, trust me.

The movie was good but I am still not sure if it was worth all the money because it's not just the movie is it? There is driving, gas, dinner, two bottles of water, nachos and unexpectedly having to buy a box of tampons just because you don't have one in your bag.

Want a shocking perspective due to shitty exchange rates and being taxed to death?
UK - sells their petrol/gas by the liter so it doesn't look so high in price...
1 US gallon = 3.785 L
1 liter is approx. £1.32 which is $2.12 a liter
So 1 gallon of gas costs £4.99 which is approx. $8.02 a gallon!

And California thought gas prices were high?

Stay home, cuddle and crack a bottle of wine for a much better evening in my opinion.

love conquers stupidness

snow wife

A year? Really?

Well it has been a year since I became "the wife" and honestly I can't complain too much, which is a good thing. I am very happy in my life and still amazed how I got here ;-)

The 1 year wedding anniversary was very important to me. My lovely hubster booked us a weekend away for 2 nights in a very nice hotel, I was quite happy. It was snowing and it was beautiful and to be honest it was just nice being away somewhere romantic and being together - that is what marriage is all about right?

The first day we took a train up and it was beautiful outside, we got to walk around seeing the Christmas decorations and all the beautiful architecture. The German market was definitely a neat place to walk around and we even tried some warm wine (raspberry please). We had lunch at a little Mexican place and ordered a pitcher of Margarita's (insert drooool here). We walked around the main street that night popping into pubs and have an adult beverage and making our way around town. Our final stop was TGI Fridays for late night starters aka dinner and one more drink. They had ranch and Patron Martini's - this ended our night nicely and again I was a happy camper. See it's the small things ;-)

The second day, our actual anniversary, it was like a blizzard but we braved it and headed to Starbucks (of course) and then made our way up to the high street to book in for a tour to task. We now had all afternoon to putz around and that is what we did. We headed back to the German market and my lovely husband bought me fur lined slipper boots that I wanted so bad! We then headed up to lunch and then on to the tour. The tour was uneventful but it was pretty cool being under the city and thinking how many sick people lived there once upon a time.
We then went back and rested and I actually took a bath and read some of my book. By now it is snowing again and obviously in high heel boots you don't really want to walk to far for dinner! We found a very posh restaurant that was recommended to us 2 blocks away, even though it took us a few minutes to find it since it was on a top floor and didn't have a normal restaurant sign. I can't tell you how happy it makes me to have a nice dinner out with my husband complete with a bottle of wine...Those are the moments I tell ya!
After dinner we went to the hotel bar since it was snowing like crazy and split another bottle of wine and just talked.
Now you may ask what did I get this lovely husband of mine? Well I got him a nice silver FCUK watch (that was broke and now getting it replaced) and he isn't a watch person really but I thought he would appreciate having a nice modern watch to wear when the occasion arose.
I also gave him our "contract" of marriage (inside joke). I searched high and low for the perfect card and creating this "contract" and felt this was very important as gifts aren't always what mark a good marriage its the thought and caring words.
Now on that side of the coin my husband did book a lovely week and it was quite expensive but he forgot the almighty card - our first wedding anniversary and not even a card? I was bummed and I say better late then never right? (hint hint to all husbands out there).

I will say I really can't ask for a better man. He cares for me and our families more then most men I have ever known. He knows when I need a cuddle or I just need to be left alone.
He is my lifelong partner and I couldn't be happier about that life sentence.

To keep your marriage brimming,
With love in the loving cup,
Whenever you're wrong, admit it;
Whenever you're right, shut up.
Ogden Nash

snow wife

It's your funeral

Everyone jokes how when you get married it's your funeral and life as you know it will cease to exist - well I will break the code of silence and say yep they are right...Not in the negative way you think though...

When you decide to get married and spend your life with that right person your world as you do know it DOES cease to exist. You are no longer single or all about me but it becomes a "we" and everything you do can affect your loving partner, so you must always think before you just willy nilly do something.
It is a funeral of your single life as you can't jet off for the weekend with your friends and party until your face falls off without really talking to your partner right? Ok that was a trick question you ALWAYS should talk to them because that is respect just FYI...
I love a good weekend away with friends as much as the next person but always respect your better half and communicate.

I have a pretty wonderful relationship with my husband and we do communicate so we are on pretty much on the same page. Everyone has a different way to communicate pending on the conversation. Take me? You piss me off I don't yell or scream but I just get quiet. I am upset or missing something and I get quiet again. I am like a baby you must figure out who I am and what my moods are and that is a marriage - figuring it out. Knowing when to say sorry and knowing when to shut the hell up also helps. Knowing when you need a few glasses of wine to really get something off your chest...Knowing when to find the right moment to say something that could been seen as negative...Knowing when to hug your partner and agree, just be glad you talked about it...Knowing when NOT to talk about something that is too fresh or raw - NOW that takes skill.

I am kinda glad my single person died as I gained a much better and happier married lady....but I am not just a wife - remember that...

Newlyweds become oldyweds, and oldyweds are the reasons that families work.
~Author Unknown

the wife