Mother's Day UK

I had written this whole post how Mother's Day was going to basically suck....

I didn't think I would feel the love or even really be acknowledged even to the furbaby but low and behold my PC did good!

I got a card and caramel treats plus the dwarfs got me a few cards too.  They were very sweet cards and not just the basic cheap ones.

We had a wonderful lunch and a few laughs.

I actually liked Mother's Day this year.

I love being surprised

Snow Wife

Perfect Parenting

Ok I will wait while you get off the floor laughing.

You mean to tell me there isn't a perfect parent out there? No way!  I have seen so many who know it all, so that can't be true.

I know mom is obviously always right and knows best right? Well hon sometimes dad is right too, just because they are a man they can still be right.

So please if you have the perfect parent handbook I would love to read it, hell might get it published and I will share the profits with ya ;-)

snow wife

Awww suck it

Is what I feel like saying sometimes.  I do always try to see the positive things of most things but there are these details that crawl under my skin and I can't shake them - EVER!
Being an educated expat wife, mom, stepmom and friend is stupid hard but we just plow on and smoosh a smile on our face.
I am educated yet I can't find a job so I feel as if I am sponging of PC and I always feel bad spending "his" money.  Yes I know its "our" money and he doesn't say don't but I have never lost this sense of independence.
I don't have the same friend circle even after all these years here which kinda sucks too.
I have gained weight and feel miserable but don't have the money to spend on a gym because at this point I think this is what I need.
Am I a good wife? I hope so even with my snotty moments I am sure he loves me to pieces.
Mom/Stepmom? I say hell yes I am as our life revolves around their health and happiness.  Sometimes I still don't feel good enough.  I am sure this is my own hang up but it is what it is - right?

Thank goodness I drive and have that freedom or I might have killed someone by now!

snow wife

Babysitter

I think the dwarfs and Prince Charming (who isn't all that charming at the moment) think I am a babysitter, house cleaner, bed maker, cook and anything else they want done.  Guess what I am not.

You are all grown up enough to manage small tasks on your own - I am not your mother. Yes I can say that.
Being a stepmom can suck wait that is a capitol "S" and some days it can be amazing.
Most days I just feel like a 3rd wheel that dropped in on a family and not sure why I am here - they aren't mine.

Not sure how I have got by this long but this is an awesome site http://www.stepdivas.com/articles/ and the articles were amazing to ME.

Stepmom Bill of Rights - INCREDIBLE!

1. Our marriage is our first priority, and we will address all issues together.
2. I will be a part of the decision making process in my marriage and family at all times.
3. People outside the immediate family, including ex-wives, in-laws, or children cannot make plans that affect my life without my consent.
4. I will not be responsible for the welfare of children for whom I can set no limits.
5. I must be consulted about which children will live with us, when they can visit, and how long they will stay.
6. I will not solely be responsible for housework – chores will be distributed fairly.
7. Others may not violate my private space at home, nor take or use my possessions without my permission.
8. I will never be treated as an “outsider” in my own home.
9. My husband and stepchildren must treat me with respect.
10. I will be consulted on all family financial matters.

AMEN
snow wife

I need to remind myself the reasons I fell in love with Prince Charming everyday...
~me