Sunday, 5 December 2010

A year? Really?

Well it has been a year since I became "the wife" and honestly I can't complain too much, which is a good thing. I am very happy in my life and still amazed how I got here ;-)

The 1 year wedding anniversary was very important to me. My lovely hubster booked us a weekend away for 2 nights in a very nice hotel, I was quite happy. It was snowing and it was beautiful and to be honest it was just nice being away somewhere romantic and being together - that is what marriage is all about right?

The first day we took a train up and it was beautiful outside, we got to walk around seeing the Christmas decorations and all the beautiful architecture. The German market was definitely a neat place to walk around and we even tried some warm wine (raspberry please). We had lunch at a little Mexican place and ordered a pitcher of Margarita's (insert drooool here). We walked around the main street that night popping into pubs and have an adult beverage and making our way around town. Our final stop was TGI Fridays for late night starters aka dinner and one more drink. They had ranch and Patron Martini's - this ended our night nicely and again I was a happy camper. See it's the small things ;-)

The second day, our actual anniversary, it was like a blizzard but we braved it and headed to Starbucks (of course) and then made our way up to the high street to book in for a tour to task. We now had all afternoon to putz around and that is what we did. We headed back to the German market and my lovely husband bought me fur lined slipper boots that I wanted so bad! We then headed up to lunch and then on to the tour. The tour was uneventful but it was pretty cool being under the city and thinking how many sick people lived there once upon a time.
We then went back and rested and I actually took a bath and read some of my book. By now it is snowing again and obviously in high heel boots you don't really want to walk to far for dinner! We found a very posh restaurant that was recommended to us 2 blocks away, even though it took us a few minutes to find it since it was on a top floor and didn't have a normal restaurant sign. I can't tell you how happy it makes me to have a nice dinner out with my husband complete with a bottle of wine...Those are the moments I tell ya!
After dinner we went to the hotel bar since it was snowing like crazy and split another bottle of wine and just talked.
Now you may ask what did I get this lovely husband of mine? Well I got him a nice silver FCUK watch (that was broke and now getting it replaced) and he isn't a watch person really but I thought he would appreciate having a nice modern watch to wear when the occasion arose.
I also gave him our "contract" of marriage (inside joke). I searched high and low for the perfect card and creating this "contract" and felt this was very important as gifts aren't always what mark a good marriage its the thought and caring words.
Now on that side of the coin my husband did book a lovely week and it was quite expensive but he forgot the almighty card - our first wedding anniversary and not even a card? I was bummed and I say better late then never right? (hint hint to all husbands out there).

I will say I really can't ask for a better man. He cares for me and our families more then most men I have ever known. He knows when I need a cuddle or I just need to be left alone.
He is my lifelong partner and I couldn't be happier about that life sentence.

To keep your marriage brimming,
With love in the loving cup,
Whenever you're wrong, admit it;
Whenever you're right, shut up.
Ogden Nash

snow wife

Tuesday, 23 November 2010

Santa isn't coming to our house...

This is the last year Santa will be around for the 7 dwarfs, well the younger one since the older one's already knows there is no Santa. I am a little sad that we don't get to have a part in the Santa ritual and having the kids wake up and be so surprised and happy that Santa came but such is life of a mixed family. The kids live with their mom so of course they want to wake up at "home" on Christmas morning so we get boxing day for a few hours.
Will it be the same? No I don't think so

When I was a child we put out cookies and milk for Santa/Father Christmas and we always got to open one present on Christmas Eve (it was normally new PJ's) and of course we could NEVER sleep the night before. I love the holidays and Christmas since it is the time for giving and being with friends and family. The decorating, the food, the wrapping of presents, the music and all the other good stuff makes me happy but this year will be different. I don't have a lot of family where I am and I just can't hop on a plane to hang out with the family since we are not rich. My family for Christmas will consist of me and my wonderful husband and then going to friends for dinner.

I know my hubster would love to share in this day and fun rituals with the 7 dwarfs but the cards don't fall that way this year or maybe even in a few years to come. Maybe one day we will have the Christmas I remember to share with a little one of our own and then we can start the Christmas rituals all over and then Santa will visit our house. On a positive note we will celebrate Christmas because we want too and how we want too and this means creating a new ritual. What should that be? hmmmm
Maybe since it is boxing day we could do homemade pizza and drinking chocolate whilst we open presents to Christmas music and do this every year we don't have the kids on actual Christmas day. Some may think I am crazy but I am all about traditions and rituals as this is the glue that makes a family a family.

Happy Christmas
snow wife

Sunday, 24 October 2010

It's your funeral

Everyone jokes how when you get married it's your funeral and life as you know it will cease to exist - well I will break the code of silence and say yep they are right...Not in the negative way you think though...

When you decide to get married and spend your life with that right person your world as you do know it DOES cease to exist. You are no longer single or all about me but it becomes a "we" and everything you do can affect your loving partner, so you must always think before you just willy nilly do something.
It is a funeral of your single life as you can't jet off for the weekend with your friends and party until your face falls off without really talking to your partner right? Ok that was a trick question you ALWAYS should talk to them because that is respect just FYI...
I love a good weekend away with friends as much as the next person but always respect your better half and communicate.

I have a pretty wonderful relationship with my husband and we do communicate so we are on pretty much on the same page. Everyone has a different way to communicate pending on the conversation. Take me? You piss me off I don't yell or scream but I just get quiet. I am upset or missing something and I get quiet again. I am like a baby you must figure out who I am and what my moods are and that is a marriage - figuring it out. Knowing when to say sorry and knowing when to shut the hell up also helps. Knowing when you need a few glasses of wine to really get something off your chest...Knowing when to find the right moment to say something that could been seen as negative...Knowing when to hug your partner and agree, just be glad you talked about it...Knowing when NOT to talk about something that is too fresh or raw - NOW that takes skill.

I am kinda glad my single person died as I gained a much better and happier married lady....but I am not just a wife - remember that...

Newlyweds become oldyweds, and oldyweds are the reasons that families work.
~Author Unknown

the wife

Friday, 10 September 2010

I am not just a wife...

I am not just a wife, I am:
a daughter
a big sister
a step sister
an aunt
a stepmother
a partner
a second wife
a ex-wife
a friend
a worker
a boss

I am feel as though sometimes everyone wants you to be pigeoned holed into a role such as wife. Well there are too many roles in my life to confine myself to one because I am all of them. I believe you have to learn to balance all of these and live as though they are one or you will drive yourself crazy.
I will be posting here as I am not just a wife but so much more...
You will learn a bit about me (not too much) and the trials of what it means to be in each of those roles and how sometimes it is wonderful and sometimes it sucks.

Until next time...
the wife